Hi there,
Sorry about last week I was feeling so cruddy that I didn't want to post. But this week is better and Daddy had a great idea foe this week. As someone that now identifies as Asexual (most likely because of a medication change but we don't know for sure) I wanted to write a little bit about being an asexual little.
It can be really challenging being a asexual little with a daddy that isn't. What has worked for us is communication. For me I am a sex positive little, this means I am totally okay with sex and that I am willing to still perform the act. Some asexuals are not okay with sex and that might be hard for a CG. This could mean the CG needs to change or that maybe the relationship wont work (sadly). But as I have found out sex isn't everything and it's nice to take sometime to do things that aren't sex based. This could be learning more about yourself or your CG. I for one have found talking to be the most relaxing thing I can do with my CG. For use this works well. Sometimes we do have sex but it isn't a top priority we spend more time laughing and talking and enjoying each other in other ways.
So to take care of an asexual little:
- ask -- what they feel and need
- spend some time doing other things -- just because this is a BDSM type relationship doesn't mean its all sex all the time there are still so many activities one can do that still falls under BDSM
- punishments that aren't sexual
- little time outside the bedroom
- spend some time doing sensual acts that don't always lead to sex
- baths
- chaining clothes
- diaper chaining
- Let your little know how you feel too -- its important to communicate what ever that may look like but your needs are just as important as theirs
- don't push -- NO MEANS NO, things may change so be ready for feelings to change when it comes to sex
- communication is key -- can't say it enough
